15 Reasons You should Have A Planner.

Over the course of writing for this blog, you can probably see that I am an advocate for planners, as well as organisation and planning. But instead of posting a photo-centric post for today, I wanted to post a logical post about the benefits of a planner.

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They don’t crash. 

What bothered me most about my old Samsung phone was that, due to a storage problem, it was constantly glitching, crashing, and subsequently would loose information. A planner doesn’t do this! Everything needed is at your fingertips.

They hold everything!

My planner has everything, as it is almost like a backpack to me. It has my vouchers, my train cards, medication, and the occasional photo. They really do hold everything-and you can add wallets in also.

Keep a blog or a business going. 

In a planner, there’s a clear layout, meaning that you can juggle lots of information at once. This is a useful detail for keeping a blog, or starting a business, surely? And a very helpful asset at that.

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Never miss a deadline.

If you’re a student, a writer, a blogger, or anyone else who is always working furiously towards a deadline, this is for you. You can keep track of all that you need to do, and it’s all within reach (see next point.) You can keep your timetable in there, as well as planning various assignments.

Information all within a reach.

Every tiny piece of information can be caught in a planner. And you can easily retrieve it, without having to recall where you stood it.

Doodling!

Doodling is such a lovely thing….and there was something in Cosmo about it positively impacting productivity. I love to draw in my planner, just to ponder occasionally.

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It’s your own space.

In a world that is often very hectic, where we rush from one thing to another, there’s not a lot of space just for us, where we can think, reflect, etc. A planner is your own private space, and can act as a port of refugee.

Private diary. 

Because why not?

You can make it colourful!

A podcast I downloaded a little while had Gala Darling as a guest, but part of the conversation revolved around how adding just some colour into your lifestyle can have a positive impact. Looking into my planner makes me happy, because of the amount of colour I use.

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Organise a social life.

As a student, I don’t always wish to be doing homework, extra reading, tasks, revision , etc devoted to my qualifications all the time. This means I have to plan my time carefully, as to get the best out of both. And a planner does this well!

Keep track of a habit.

Whether you want to stop biting your nails, try new foods, stop smoking, etc, a planner can track this.

Reach your goals!

At the start of each year, I like to create a list of goals to achieve for the year. It’s an approach that allows me to set our my goals, thus systematically and logically allowing me to work towards them.

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Store the contact details of your friends and work.

Pretty self explanatory, really.

Keep track of your post.

I like to write letters, and there will be more on the blog about that soon. Anyway, a planner could be used to keep track of this if you’re like me-who you’ve written to, if you’ve had any replies, etc.

Save money.

As I like to save money, I have an insert, which allows me to keep my vouchers all in one place. You could do the same!

What do you use your planner for?

Lydia

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18 Things learnt in eighteen years.

Life should be so simple at times, right? Wrong! There are a lot of lessons to be learnt-and to be honest, I’m still learning a lot daily. So, here is something I wanted to share with you-and it’s my version of a top eighteen on my list.

  1. Help will come to you, if you ask for it. It’s like that old saying, “if you don’t ask, you don’t get”. I spent a lot of time not getting, simply because A: I didn’t understand how to, and B: people scare me at the best of times. Nowadays, I think that this has completely switched-besides, you read my product reviews, don’t you? I also couldn’t claim to be a Columnist otherwise.
  2. Organisation is a bonus. Everyone will have deadlines, appointments, and some things to do at one point. 
  3. Caster sugar goes with royal icing, not flour. Exactly.
  4. Call people out if they’re rude. Rudeness is not really acceptable, to be honest-and I got very bored with it at several different educational instutions. So I called them out on it-because, why do it?
  5. Kindness is a virtue. Kindness is a great trait, and it shows in everything that you do. It also leaves us with that warm, fuzzy feeling.
  6. Tolerance is the best trait. Going with kindness, of course.
  7. Stick to your ideas. Ideas are a very fundamental thing-and whole societies, books, opinions, etc are built on them. Even if it sounds really silly at first, stick to them-don’t let anyone talk you down about them. They are your very own.
  8. Aspergers is not a limitation, and neither is what life throws at you. On a personal note here: once I was diagnosed with ASD-not really a surprise, to be honest-I got very tired,  very quickly, with people saying that I could not do something, due to ASD. How silly! Life is not a limitation, and neither is a disability-we can overcome. Life has beauty. Live it to the fullest.
  9. Popularity is not everything. Whilst in education, I would often go head-to-head with people who believed that because they were popular, they had the right to dominate everything. It also ostensibly gave them the right to be mean. (Ha ha!) Popularity is not everything.
  10. Family is what count. Need I say any more?
  11. You can do anything you put your mind to. You just need to dream it.
  12. Gender is not what should prevent you from doing anything. To the day I die, I will proclaim myself to be a proud feminist. Because we’re all human-and I can do anything a boy can do!
  13. Tease, now and then. Because this allows you to laugh at Life. With a capital L.
  14. Be bold. Dare to triumph, wherever you go. Because there’s (nearly) always a next time, and you can try and try again.
  15. Colour is everything. You’ll be bold that way.
  16. Never put a cake in a fridge. Apparently it is not good for icing.
  17. If there is something you perceive to be wrong, you should speak about it. And that way, we can get rid of injustices.
  18. Believe yourself. You are capable of more than you know. 

What have you learnt?

Lydia

XO

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Rowan Coleman Interview. 

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Rowan Coleman released her next book, The Summer Of Impossible Things, just two days ago.  It stands out from all of her previous works. Here, I emailed her a few questions, in order to find out more. (Thanks also to Tess Henderson.)

Since the last interview, you’ve written and are about to release a new book, The Summer Of Impossible Things. What was the inspiration behind it? 

Quite a few inspirations, but I suppose mostly I have always wanted to write a time travel novel. It’s a concept that is endlessly fascinating and inspiring, the idea that you can experience another time, and perhaps alter the future. And at around about the time I started to think about this I kept seeing and reading about one particular place and time, Brooklyn 1977. So it felt like the universe was telling me something.

The Summer Of Impossible Things is largely based in Brooklyn, USA. How did you go about adding in the authentic detail?

I went to Brooklyn, and spent a week there, and I’m so glad I did. My idea of Brooklyn was quite different from the reality, and the location of Bay Ridge had its own character too. I learnt a lot, took about 1000 photos, talked to anyone who would talk to me and walked in the footsteps of my characters, finding the locations and charting them on a map. I went during very hot weather so it was great for recreating the sense of the 77 heatwave.

A theme explored throughout the book is ‘love conquers all’. Do you agree, and if so, why?

I don’t think love automatically conquers all, but I do think if it’s driven by passion, courage and great determination it’s a universal force can surmount almost anything.

Asides from the latest book, do you have any other books currently in the works?

I am now working on the next book, but I can’t tell you anymore about it yet!

What are your tips for success?

Hmmm I don’t know. I never really feel like I’ve achieved it! But I do believe in working hard, being persistent and pushing yourself to be better.

And finally, one random question: if any actor could play you in a biopic of your life, who would you cast and why?

Haha!! Oh, um….. Rachel Weiss. So me but thin, and beautiful, married to James Bond and with Brown eyes! 

Click here to buy The Summer Of Impossible Things.

The Summer Of Impossible Things By Rowan Coleman: Release And Review. 

Disclaimer: On the announcement of release, I requested the proof of this book to review. What follows is my honest opinion, having been a fan of Rowan Coleman for a while now. 

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Excuse my language, but what a bloody brilliant book this is! (You can also have some tripled alliteration along with that.) Having arrived in the post, I was surprised at the bulk-more that three hundred pages, and presumably longer than any other volumes written prior. Eagerly, I got stuck in. (A long car journey warrants this. At twelve hours, I needed a long book!)

Firstly, I was a little bit bewildered at the ‘voice’ of Luna, the protagonist of the book. She, at thirty, seems a little bit childish, almost idealistic, in repeating the same mistakes, over and over again. (Apart from that, she’s really cool in that she works in a male-dominated environment, dressing to reflect this.) But with the revelation that she can travel through time, Luna begins to change-meaning I developed more empathy towards her. (The mother of the story has died, but her two daughters have to uncover the secret she leaves behind in Brooklyn. )

Trust me, this is a very tense book, as well as highly emotional. In the end though, I loved the twist. And I promise that I won’t spoil it for you.

However, at times I did feel that this book is too weighty-in that the depth of description often goes against the plotline. It can take a little while to get going, fully immersed into the story. (It could do with maybe cutting some of this?) But once I did, I was completely captivated by this book. Immersed fully. And I was disappointed once it ended. It’ll be a firm favorite on my bookshelves from now on.

It’s released today, and I encourage you all to buy it.

Rate: 14/15

Click here to buy The Summer Of Impossible Things. 

15 thoughts I have when and to do with blogging…

We all have thoughts whilst blogging, don’t we? For today’s post, I thought I’d share five of my thoughts.

  1. *Sees new blogger on Twitter* “Maybe a guest post week would be fun? They could be one of the guests-a perfect thing for them!”
  2. “WHY are you rejecting me?? WAAAHHH” -On a brand that declares that I am too small a Blogger to have ever graced their presence.
  3. “Twitter is important. Twitter is everything. Twitter keeps this little space going. My blog would not exist without Twitter.”
  4. “I wish I was like…” (insert the names of many Bloggers here.)
  5. “Why do people live tweet police dramas?”-on Line Of Duty.
  6. “Maybe I should post extracts of my new novel?”
  7. “I wish I could earn a decent fee from Blogging, and that brands would pay me…”
  8. “WHY ON EARTH did I decide to post daily?!?!”
  9. *Anger at people who follow/unfollow me constantly*
  10. “How could I have used up another ten percent of my free photo storage space, when I only uploaded another TEN photos?!”
  11. “I loovvvveee freebies. This is why I blog..”
  12. ‘Not really!!”
  13. “Maybe I should start a Facebook page?”
  14. “This is all too much hard work”
  15. *Repeat all again*

What thoughts do you have whilst blogging?

Lydia

XO

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On hateful language in politics, and some ideas about reforming a system. 

Prior to taking Politics for my A-levels, I was warned that it would make me a cynic; whilst I’d describe myself as being sceptical, I’m not really apathetic. Today is a year on from that referendum; rather than commenting on Brexit or Bremain, I wanted to analyse the actual mechanics of the Referendum-thereby suggesting possible reform.

Parliamentary Sovereignty.

Because of the concept of parliamentary sovereignty, Referendums aren’t common. We had: the common market vote (1975), AV for MP’s (2011), Scottish independence (which England couldn’t vote in), and Brexit (2016). Although not necessarily binding, we still have the First Past The Post system, giving a majority, and also a mandate because of it, to Parliament. The reform here needs to be less of a fragmented system-because the results will be disputed otherwise, because generally speaking, it’s only two percent either way.

Collective responsibility.

Basically: the cabinet is obliged to work with the PM in public on policy. Once inside the cabinet rooms, they can disagree, but once public, it’s generally advised to be in line with the PM. But for this referendum, it was suspended, which I found a bit odd: surely our leaders should be unbiased, and not promoting another agenda? I would like to see secret ballots instead, without the need for campaigning-and also because it got to be so misleading. (Voters don’t need lies! They need truth!)

The question needs to have the implication.

Generally speaking, we are all opinionated. And we vote on those opinions we hold dear-whether it’s pro big buisness, against unions, etc. But to have a simple yes/no balloted paper does not give the implication of what happens otherwise, lest the result swing the other way. Because of the way his position had been undermined, David Cameron resigned from being PM. With that is a leadership election, new cabinet-so much transition. And I feel as if this was not really understood at the time. We need possibly implications, and procedures in place.

The way voted for.

Ostensibly, this referendum may have been a protest vote-along the lines of “vote the other way, we’ll shake the establishment”. This is not good because if true, it is not truly representative. Politics is about you, the people-and we only have the chance to show what we want every once in a while. We shouldn’t be voting like this.

But a note about mandates.

The majority vote gives the government a mandate. Simple as.

Hate crime is still inexcusable.

On reading that hate crime had rocketed after the referendum, I was truly disgusted. Brexit was a vote about whether the UK wanted to stay in a political organisation-not about hate! (The rhetoric of some leaders was awful; this was a vote about an organisation. ) And surely EU citizens and immigrants still have every right to live here!? We need them. We’d be silly to think so otherwise.

If there is a oddity of reaction-what I’m calling this reaction-but I would still like this to be called out.

 

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“Should blogs be political?”

Well….we live in politically interesting times, don’t we?*

An issue that I’ve seen floating around on several blogs is; “Should blogs be political?” And, if I’m completely honest, I’m a bit divided about this. Therefore, for this post, I wanted to weigh up the pros and cons, and for people to decide whether they should or shouldn’t be in the comments:

The pros:

Well, it’s always good when we discuss politics, isn’t it? We can’t allow for politics to divide us-and by talking about it, we aren’t. We’re also spreading awareness, accounting for a lack of education on some parts-such as informing people who aren’t aware of how to vote, and who don’t know how to fill out a ballot paper. Democracy in progress, right?

The cons:

I study politics, so I guess that I’m not very typical as an example. But some posts can be a little bit misleading. Do we nearly need to go on about ‘Tory scum’, for instance? Do we really need to push our opinions on to other people? No, we don’t, because it’s inaccurate, unfair, and lazy in spreading awareness.

Conclusion:

I like that bloggers such as myself are spreading awareness, but I’m also a little bit fearful of being mislead or being misleading.

What do you think? Leave your thoughts in the comments!

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* I’m writing this the day that Theresa May announced a possible snap election.

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My planner Wishlist…

I am very excited to be getting a new planner: you’ll be able too see my reasons as for the switch soon, as I’ll be posting about it soon. (Long story short, I needed an upgrade, as everything was becoming too crammed into my personal sized planner.) I love to have everything laid out visually on paper, as I otherwise can become very muddled. But this is my Wishlist of what I would like to decorate the new Planner with!

Washi tape:

Washi tape allows me to decorate the pages of the diary, and because it has very pretty pictures, I can ‘theme’ each week. To decorate is something that I find to be really calming. And when I come back to whatever page, it makes me smile. Paperchase have owl washi tape-click here to view-as well as Blue gingham tape-click here also to view. I usually choose patterns that are typically quite dark, so I wished to go for something brighter this time. Hobbycraft have gold washi tape (click here). Plus Paperchase have mint pink! (Click here also.) As you can see, I was almost stupidly excited.

 

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Look at the Washi tape and stickers!

Stickers:

So, yes, I am upgrading a size, because I have so much to juggle now. It needs stickers, surely? These Paperchase stickers are able to point to to specifically important post; by contrast, I just like these stickers because they are rose gold. And there’s also these stickers, which are just too pretty to not include.

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Even back on this old set up, there’s a lot of stickers!

And to keep track of appointments?

There are these lovely looking sticky notes from Paperchase. (Click here to view.) I tend to add in a lot at the last minute-even to just scribble a note on a post it-which would makes these a great addition. I also love that they can book mark certain pages-just what I need!

Other paper things:

Whilst browsing the net, one tip I read was that, in order to create a new pocket, just simply hole punch an envelope, and put it in your planner. Genius! I came across this lovely looking envelope (click here to view). And in case I run out of writing paper? These yellow refills look lovely.

The planner I have my eye on has tabs for an undated diary (I’m not sure about this format, bare in mind), a meal planner, shopping list, budgeting, and notes. Although some of these I may switch round-maybe with new dividers, such as Blog, Writing, etc-I’m keen to be changing my planner.

Let’s see how this goes,

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Here’s a stereotype that I’m sick of….

Disclaimer: this post is about my experience of Aspergers Syndrome, and is relative to my own experience. But I cannot take responsibility for any action taken as a result of reading this. 

I’m tired. Really I am. And not in the ‘physical sense’. I am SICK and tired of being stereotyped, based on my ASD.

Rainman isn’t the set standard for people on the spectrum, although it seems to have been perceived as such. What’s forgotten is how nuanced the spectrum can be. There’s a set perceived view point, and that’s how we all are, apparently. (I detest being stereotyped so much that I just had to put it into a post.)

I am also not a ‘math’s genius’.

And I am tired of being perceived as lacking in Empathy-there isn’t just one type, one set way of being so-as well as not caring, unemotional, etc. These are all based on assumptions, and although they are hallmarks of the spectrum, I feel it is unfair to characterise us all as being alike to what I just described.

Thank you for listening,

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The Summer Of Impossible Things Release: Here’s What You Need To Know. 


Rowan Coleman’s latest novel, The Summer Of Impossible Things, is out later this month. And here is what you need to know about it.

  • It’s significantly longer than her previous works.
  • Expect some time travel throughout the book; it is sort of fantasy/thriller/drama. However, it forms quite an important part of the book.
  • This book will make you cry. Proper big gulpy sobs. Like her other books.
  • Family is the theme at the centre.
  • There’s one narrator, Luna.
  • It’s set in Brooklyn, United States.
  • There are so many twists!
  • What you read may surprise you.

The Summer Of Impossible Things is out later this month, on June 29th.

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50 things that make me happy.

To be Happy is something subjective, but I wanted to count my blessings, and put on a post what makes me happy.

  1. Planning! Because it is a comfort, and it is always something that I can fall back on. You can tell I’m an Aspie, can’t you?
  2. My family. Obviously.
  3. Blogging. I never thought that this would be a project that’s taken me forward for half a decade, and as far as I have come.
  4. Twitter. Because the people on it are usually nice to me.
  5. CHIPS!
  6. Chatting about the Presidents.
  7. Getting an email from a brand that I would love to work with, saying that they would love to work with me!
  8. Washi tape.
  9. CATS!
  10. Anything Queen related, because I LOVE their music.
  11. A new pair of shoes.
  12. Netflix, late at night, with a bowl full of ice-cream.
  13. Anything that comes in the post-I love to receive Blogger mail, or letters from my correspondents.
  14. Sylvia Plath’s poetry.
  15. Downloading new albums on iTunes.
  16. Being included in the Freddie Friday hashtag.
  17. People online who are autistic, and leave me lovely comments on my posts about ASD.
  18. Blog chats.
  19. Cheese toasties.
  20. A good hair cut.
  21. When an author that I love makes a new book announcement,
  22. The smell of Taylor Swift’s Wonderstruck.
  23. The song ‘I Thought I Told You That’…
  24. And ‘Left Outside Alone’.
  25. Getting an honest blog comment.
  26. Being tagged in a blog award.
  27. Running into friends that I have not seen in a while.
  28. Blogger mail.
  29. Browsing Paperchase for new planner related materials.
  30. Seeing Sylvia Plath in the newspaper.
  31. A good joke.
  32. Visiting the cat cafe.
  33. Lemon sherbets.
  34. A good manicure.
  35. Writing on the first page of a new notebook.
  36. looking through fountain pens.
  37. The feeling after a prayer, when I feel at one with myself.
  38. Strawberries!
  39. When people appreciate me baking-because I don’t cook, but making cakes is something I’m half decent at.
  40. Collecting Vinyl and finding a gem of a record.
  41. The feeling at a concert, when everyone is just so caught up in the music, and it’s almost as if time has stopped.
  42. Playing Articulate.
  43. Red nail varnish.
  44. Uploading several posts at once.
  45. Watching Highlander and being able to sing along.
  46. A peaceful pint of Cider at the pub.
  47. Queen Rock Montreal, the album.
  48. A new biography of Jacqueline Kennedy.
  49. A visit to Foyles bookshop.
  50. A visit to the British library.

What makes you happy?

 

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50 things I’m grateful for.

Let’s change the tune of this blog, if only for a day; lets be grateful! These are fifty things that I am grateful for, and I wish to inspire you to do the same. And these are in no particular order, please note.

  1. Being able-bodied.
  2. The day I was FINALLY diagnosed as having Aspergers Syndrome. It explained so many things-my flat voice, special interests, lack of eye contact, some clumsiness, etc.
  3. Having a home.
  4. Having learning support.
  5. That I’m still blogging after all these years.
  6. My planner. Because it keeps me organised and feeling less anxious!
  7. Being able to learn in a country that supports my rights as a female.
  8. My family.
  9. That an editor liked my pitch to be a teen columnist, and allowed me to write as a Columnist.
  10. That this is specific legislation in place to stop gender and disability discrimination.
  11. To even have a blog.
  12. To have faith.
  13. CATS!!
  14. To have met Brian May.
  15. To have interviewed Anastacia.
  16. ‘Left Outside Alone’.
  17. That we have a stable political system. Sort of.
  18. And that I am allowed to read.
  19. That I was taught to read and write.
  20. That my vision problems were picked up quickly.
  21. Glasses! Because I can finally see.
  22. Curly hair. It’s what makes me, me.
  23. The right to vote.
  24. The feeling I get when I see a brand email.
  25. The sound of the church bells where I live.
  26. Smell of cut grass.
  27. Summer.
  28. That I may or may not be starting on the NTCJ course soon… (Watch this space!)
  29. Anything rose gold. So pleasing to the eye!
  30. Twitter. I love Twitter.
  31. The Bell Jar.
  32. The Diary Of Anne Frank.
  33. To have been able to explore Brighton.
  34. That I have enough food.
  35. Poetry.
  36. Red nail varnish.
  37. Fifties-style dresses.
  38. Twitter blog chats!
  39. That I have now reached the age of eighteen. Finally!
  40. To understand the workings of our political system.
  41. My typewriter.
  42. All blog comments.
  43. Print media.
  44. The feel of silk.
  45. Amy Macdonald and the ‘This is the life’ album.
  46. Spike Milligan’s verses.
  47. CATS! (Oh wait, I already wrote that….)
  48. Anything APPLE.
  49. The smell of wonderstruck.
  50. You commenting on this post.

What are you grateful for?

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Why I’m Starting To Dislike Social Media…

Please be warned that this post is a bit of a rant, and I may sound unreasonable at times.

Social media. Oh, social media. I have defended you, loved you, and become a fan in equal measure. But I am REALLY SICK of how you’re being used. More specifically; to spread drama, create rumours, and adding ‘fake news’ to the mix. All you seem to do is spread ill will.

I use Twitter and Instagram, to keep in touch with people I know, as well as to promote my blog, this little space on the internet. And it has bought me a wealth of experiences, all of which I am truly grateful for. It contributes to my readership, brands working with me, blog comments, garnering guest posters, getting a favourite writer to follow me, and it keeps me informed of new releases-be it books, albums, monopoly, etc. All is well.

But it’s just so divisive. And I’m starting to dislike social media.

Since when was it ever okay to film someone on Snapchat, without their consent? Post in the same vein on Facebook? Tweet our MP’s death threats? Spread homophobic abuse? Judge other people’s choices? Troll brands? Troll people? Create ‘fake news’? And-for want of another word-slag  off other bloggers? When was any of this every okay, or deemed acceptable to post?

I’m tired of this. So, so tired.

To use social media to harass, bully, demean is disgusting behaviour. And I’m fed up with seeing Blogger pit themselves against each other. I’m sick of seeing an electorate sprout untruths and wish ill will on their representatives. I feel sick to my stomach at all of this. We have to be better than this.

And this fake news. FAKE NEWS! Where, just WHERE is the gain in spreading complete lies? And Facebook has even rolled out a guide as how to spot it.

Technology could be used to better ourselves-start a blog, keep in contact with people you know and love, keep up to date with current affairs. But express whatever opinion you have so that it’s measured. No one should be made to feel afraid. No one should be made to feel isolated.

 

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“What does it feel like to have Aspergers?”

“What does it feel like to have Aspergers?” 

It’s a question that I’ve been asked previously, and one that I’ve struggled to respond to. To have Aspergers is completely subjective, as it’s a condition that’s on a Spectrum; so what I may write in this post may differ from the experience of other people.

It feels isolating.

The amount of times just trying to talk to someone, but they have laughed at me, or made me feel uncomfortable, because of my lack of eye contact, flat voice, etc is something that I have lost count of. For years I did try to ‘fit in’ to whatever clique was dominating whatever school I was at; here’s a spoiler for you. It doesn’t work. I was the one who wanted to talk about politics, or to discuss Cold War history. That’s not what counts as ‘usual’ for a teenager, is it? 

It can feel lonely.

It seems like being in your own world at times, locked away, unable to communicate at the best of times. I don’t want to just sit, talking about boys, hair or make up. There has got to be more to life than this!

It feels as if I am winning, because of a special interest.

Special interests can be subjective to everyone; mine usually revolved around History and people. But it helped with what I would study, because there were so many links that I could make with what I already knew, meaning that I could get to grips with the subject more easily. And that is a good feeling, because I would otherwise struggle with a lot of subjects.

It feels like an unfair fight.

Because so many people do not understand. And I don’t understand so many things, because of the idea that I should inhabit a neurotypical world, rather than my own. It’s not helpful, and I’ve had to deal with this a lot. 

It feels like something gained, not something lost.

To be diagnosed with Aspergers was an end to a very long game; it was just so obvious to me that I was different from my classmates, therefore logically I thought of myself as being ‘on spectrum’. But knowledge gained is something good; I haven’t lost anything, and there’s nothing to loose. 

It feels as if I am NOT broken.

Because anyone with Aspergers or Autism does not need to be repaired. They are not broken, or at fault. Be supportive in this sense; to be autistic or on spectrum is NOT a travesty, or something to be mocked.

It can feel scary. 

Could we look at being on the spectrum as being something positive, just for once? Yes, it can be scary, because of places with a lot of people, unfiltered noise, etc. But there’s something powerful in it; we can specialise in a given topic, remember a lot of things, and create what we wish. This is something that is a strength, and maybe not something that somebody neurotypical has. Use it to your advantage. Hans Asperger described people on spectrum as being ‘Little professors’. And there should be no shame in that. 

Thank you for listening,

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Why I’m Changing To A Paperchase Organiser From A Filofax…

Don’t get me wrong; my Filofax has been my lifeline for a long time now, in organising every role I have to inhibit-the student, the columnist, the blogger, the wannabe journalist. And by the title of this post, I wish not to sound disparaging towards Filofax; it really has been a good brand to me as a consumer.

But I wish to upgrade my planner.

The personal size is just too small now; everything is now crammed into a tiny space. And it’s really daunting to see everything crammed into one page-just look above. It leads me to feel as if I do not accomplish a lot, in spite of the hours put in.

Later this year, I’ll also be taking on more roles; I’ll be working to pay rent, studying for a Journalism diploma, filing stories as often as possible, and launching my blog as a business. (You may have noticed that I switched round the pages, added a few widget, and changed the background colour.) This needs more space!

Whenever I go into my local Smiths, they rarely have any A5 Filofaxes in stock, due to being a small, local franchise. But when I go into Paperchase, it has a wide range…. (you can see where I’m going with this, can’t you?) I can’t wait to show you my new planner.

 

 

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I am pleased to announce that I am working with Basic Beauty Tools. If you go to their website via this link , and order the Spongedry, you can get an extra free foundation blender by adding under ‘Note To Seller’ your colour code: LYDIAPINK for pink, LYDIAPURPLE for purple, and LYDIABLACK for black.