I’ve been asked this question, and I thought it could make a semi-decent blog post; “From your perspective as an Autistic people, what would you like to change?” lead to a conversation about pet peeves.
“You suffer from Aspergers..”
In one respect, I can understand this; from my perspective, I can be highly anxious (though I have no diagnosis for Anxiety), and I do not know how to talk to people-be it initiating conversation, making friends. But: I suffered people who did not understand me, and were wishing to be a bit of a bully at times. Not the fault of my Aspergers.
“Ever thought of curing yourself?”
Well, I have wondered what it would be like to be “normal”. I even wrote about it in a post called “The Wish”. But the implication here was is that I should be cured. Which I would not do if ever given the chance. Why? Read this.
“I feel sorry for you.”
Why? I think having Aspergers is pretty cool with some assets not considered ‘normal’-enough so that I even wrote a manifesto about it. Don’t pity me.
“All Autistic people are weird.”
Oh, love a stereotype! This is not weirdness; it’s originality. A square peg in a round hole. And it has such a good use!
“You lack empathy”
* Claps hands slowly in a mocking way”. The thing with empathy is that there are two sorts, I think; divide them into actions and words. I would like to think that my actions demonstrate my empathy for people, as I’m not very communicative.
“You’re so obsessional”
I have a problem with this-enough so that I may follow up in another post. But there’s a ‘double standard’ here; if a neurotypical person has an interest/hobby, it is viewed as normal. Person on spectrum? Yes, they are ostensibly obsessional. But why be derisory when it is a hobby to them, and possibly essential to their wellbeing?
“Can’t you let it go!?”
No. No. No. No. No. Not at all.
I ramble. We know this to be true. If it’s on a topic I know about, I wish to share the amount of stuff that is going on inside my head-facts, opinion, research. But please be polite-there is no need to snap.
“You’re not listening because you’re not looking at me.”
I went into this with a post called “The eye contact problem”; it bugs me how this is still the line of thinking in some circles. But you do not listen with your eyes; rather, I can see a stereotype that makes me feel uncomfortable.