Autism is not the problem.

Good morning-

For this post, I wished to explain my view on something. This has come up in conversation recently-and to be honest, it did upset me, just a little bit.


“Autism is not a problem. It does not need to be cured. It does not need to be altered. It does not need to be edited, changed, improved upon.” Sounds a simple manifesto, almost a mantra, doesn’t it? It’s what I try to stick to, and talk about-be it through my blog, to if people ask me questions, etc.

Since being diagnosed in January 2015-seems a long time ago, doesn’t it?-there has been some mixed reactions. People are seemingly reluctant to be my friend anymore, in spite of the fact I haven’t changed, not really. For others, it slotted into place a puzzle that had finally been solved. To others, it ostensibly gave them the excuse, even apparent legitimacy (!) to be horrible to me. Others haven’t cared in the slightest-I’m still just plain Lydia to them.

I do struggle sometimes, I’ll freely admit it. I cannot read the emotions that anyone’s face plays out daily, neither can I read a social situation. I cannot make friends very easily. I do not keep a friendship very easily. People my own age are so hard to talk to at the best of times. My interests can be perceived as obsessive, boring, even dull and mundane. Other people sometimes do not know how to talk to me. I have problems with my environment-such as loud noises, some sensations, etc. Keep organised can be an issue. Eye contact doesn’t always work.

But I’m sick of having to see my Aspergers as ‘the problem’, ‘the hindrance’, ‘a trouble’, ‘weakness’.

Sometimes it seems that society isn’t as accepting-just some pockets, tiny areas. And I’m tired of having to care what they think about me. It’s moments when I’m told by people that they don’t care is when I feel happy, at peace almost, with my ASD. They accept me in spite of what others see as something terrible.

The problem is that Autism is seen as a weakness, when its hallmarks have the potential to give us better abilities, thus allowing us to achieve greater things.

(This is a paragraph merely meant to illustrate, not to boast, to prove my point.) By the age of eighteen, I have built this blog-which I regard as being something to be proud of, interviewed Anastacia, met Queen Extravaganza and interviewed them, seen Derren Brown give a book talk, spoken at Portcullis house, become a Columnist, made a front cover of my local magazine, met Brian May (he’s my hero!), and made friends along the way. I’m also still getting my qualifications also.

For anyone reading this who has been recently diagnosed, or thinks that they may be in the spectrum; please do not be afraid. Autism is not something scary, devilish, or to be feared. We should embrace it, use it as an advantage. We are capable of achieving far more than we can know, simply by utilising these traits that put us on the Doctor’s spectrum of people. We are people, and we care as much as anyone else. Hold your head up high, and tell yourself daily, “these are the people that are going to watch me run. I can do anything I wish, and I have nothing to loose”.

Lydia

XO

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30 thoughts on “Autism is not the problem.

  1. autismtherapysite says:

    Thank you for your inspiring blog post! I work with adults with autism and help them with relationships and social interaction, as well as navigating the neurotypical world safely. Most of my clients express the same problems you indicated and it makes them sad and anxious, and often not willing to try. I’ve written a book of guidelines for teens and young adults with autism: Taking Care of Myself2. If you ever have a chance to check it out, I’d love to know your opinion of it(I think it can be found in most libraries, as well as Amazon and book stores).
    I wish you the best in your relationship struggles. Hang in there!

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  2. aspbeing says:

    Thank you for your piece. You have a really nice writing voice. I heard a song recently the lyrics of which really resonated with my aspie-ness – “there’s no race, there’s only a runner”. I think it applies so well to autism. All the best xx

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  3. Thoroughly Modern Emily says:

    I’m so sorry you’ve encountered so many close minded people. It’s just awful that people see any slight difference in behavior and forget that we’re all people underneath. But you’re right — some of those differences do let you achieve so many things! You’ve done a lot already in your life and you’ve got plenty more ahead of you!

    xx
    Emily

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  4. Isabel says:

    I so agree! I am recently diagnosed at 27. Autism cannot be cured, yet so many of my friends seem to think it is like a flu virus that needs treating as such. I am finding out who my real friends are now I think, which is sad but at the same time I guess it’s best to know.

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  5. Tanya says:

    You have a way with word and it’s amazing to see influencers (like you) openly talk about things and the problems they face. It’s inspiring and I am so glad I found your blog.

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  6. pinkiebag says:

    Hi, what a brutally honest post. Good for you embracing it and even using it to your advantage. The end of your post should apply to everyone. I can do anything I wish and have nothing to loose.

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  7. Corinne & Kirsty 🌸 (@corinnekirsty) says:

    This is such a strong post! I totally agree, the condition is not the issue! The ignorance of people is! When they hear “autism” they just have one degree of the spectrum in mind, which is super reductive while as you said, there are so many different kind! the problem is people not knowing and society not providing the right help! xx corinne

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