Following on from my aspiration to be like Nicole from Thrifty Vintage Fashion, I wanted to write this post. Ever since I was diagnosed as having Aspergers Sydrome, there’s been a few comments which I’m not really sure how to describe. Combining some, I’ve come up with a list of things of what not to say to people with Aspergers Sydrome…
“You were always like Rain Man…”
Aspergers is not just simply characterised by being good with numbers, not having an understanding of anything around us, and seemingly being ‘blank’. Numbers is not necessarily the obsessive interest that characterises this condition. This is a stereotype.
“You’re so obsessional!”
Well, yeah, it’s in the diagnosis…but this has sometimes occurred in two different contexts with me; either if I don’t understand and keep asking questions about it, or if I get really involved in a topic of interest. (Described as ‘Obsessional’. ) But it seems almost like an insult; why disregard something that has the potential to be such an asset? An obsessive interest could be used in terms of career-and skills wise, it could lead to potential to go very far.
“I think my intention was pretty obvious….”
Errrmmm. No it wasn’t. Because We can’t always ‘read’ faces, it’s hard to tell how a social situation can play out. It’s not always obvious to us.